Tori Spelling revealed she’s looking for a “monogamous situationship” following her divorce from Dean McDermott after 18 years of marriage.
The Beverly Hills, 90210 actress opened up about her dating preferences on her misSPELLING podcast. She explained why a traditional relationship doesn’t fit her current lifestyle.
“The new thing is not a relationship, but a monogamous situationship. So, that would fit really nicely into my life because, honestly, right now, I’m focused on my kids and I’m focused on work.”
Spelling, 52, describes the arrangement as exclusive but flexible.
“It’s like a situationship, but you’re not with anyone else. So it just kind of goes with your time and freedom and they’re there.”
The actress is raising five children: Liam, 18, Stella, 17, Hattie, 13, Finn, 12, and Beau, 8. She admitted bringing someone new into their world seems overwhelming.
“Like, with my five kids, I can’t imagine bringing a guy into this world. He would be like, Ah! And run screaming. So while the kids are still semi-young, maybe I find a monogamous situationship.”
Spelling filed for divorce from McDermott in March 2024.
The couple separated on June 17, 2023, the same day McDermott announced their split on Instagram before deleting the post. Court documents cited irreconcilable differences.
Spelling’s Fear of Being Alone
In April, Spelling opened up about her fears during a conversation with Aubrey O’Day on her misSPELLING podcast.
She wasn’t using dating apps at the time.
“I don’t want to be with somebody, but I do want to be. I just don’t want to be alone.”
The conversation became emotional when O’Day shared similar feelings.
“You know me. I’m positive. I just – I don’t want to die alone.”
Spelling described herself as resilient despite the challenges.
“They should sample my DNA when they go to the next world war. Whatever I am, I’m resilient, but what does it mean at the end of the day?”
She previously told PEOPLE she’s struggled with confidence throughout her life. Spelling noted she encourages her children by telling them they’re “worth anything and everything” while not believing it about herself.
“I think people assume when you’re in this business, you’re an actor and you’re famous and you speak [that] you’re so confident. I’ve had a lack of confidence my entire life and I never felt worthy enough.”
